I do not fit in this world

Man alone in desert

"Whatever I do, I'm an outsider. Day by day I confirm the fact that nobody likes me, nobody needs me, I feel miserable among people who sky rocketed in their careers, got smiling families and colleagues respecting them. I can no longer stand these happy faces around us in the world that I do not fit in..." - Does this feeling seem familiar to you?

You are not alone. There are millions of us, just like you. Many of us do not belong to this world.

Si le monde vous hait, sachez qu'il m'a haï avant vous. Si vous étiez du monde, le monde aimerait ce qui est à lui; mais parce que vous n'êtes pas du monde, et que je vous ai choisis du milieu du monde, à cause de cela le monde vous hait.

( Jean 15:18-19 )

What does this world offer to us? Feeling important and special, ability to earn money, buy a car and a big house? Receive praise from your friends confirming your acceptance and special status among them? Or it's a feeling of being better than others? Maybe enjoyment of being served by other people? Or, it's just all these gadgets your can buy and play with? Or the world's offer is an employment in a big company where you can be helping other people build their career, show your grace by promoting your direct reports or helping them with their technical challenges? Flying in first class and driving in business conferences? Publishing pictures of yourself in expensive restaurants on social networks?

That’s amazing, right? Who would not want that? Yes, indeed, let’s be honest and not deny it - it sounds attractive! However, sooner or later we will understand that none of the offers of this world will fill in the emptiness and loneliness inside of us. Then we’ll feel fooled by following the world, following the lust of that fake treasure for years and only now realizing that the praise from the friends that seemed to valuable to us all that time is nothing more than just a masked envy and hatred.

When Jesus came down to Earth and offered the freedom to people, many of them believed him, but nobody dared to acknowledge it publicly,

Car ils aimèrent la gloire des hommes plus que la gloire de Dieu.

( Jean 12:43 )

Here we are, bound to the human praise and acceptance. Free birds bound to a golden cage. A fish attracted to a lure. Bound by a fear of other's opinion...

La crainte des hommes tend un piège, Mais celui qui se confie en l'Eternel est protégé.

( Proverbes 29:25 )

Yes, we do not have to try to fit into this world. We do not have to follow the desire for the values of this world, straining our souls and draining our hearts. Like plastic jewelry won’t be any match to the real genuine diamond, offers of this world will never fill the emptiness in our hearts. It will never satisfy the thirst we feel.

N'aimez point le monde, ni les choses qui sont dans le monde. Si quelqu'un aime le monde, l'amour du Père n'est point en lui;

( 1 Jean 2:15 )

There is a source of true love, true knowledge, true path to life, the water source that we never get thirsty after.

mais celui qui boira de l'eau que je lui donnerai n'aura jamais soif, et l'eau que je lui donnerai deviendra en lui une source d'eau qui jaillira jusque dans la vie éternelle.

( Jean 4:14 )

You may or may not know Jesus Christ (even though you have likely heard the name), who he is and where he is from. Yet, there is one thing we could see right away - he’s not of this world.

Je leur ai donné ta parole; et le monde les a haïs, parce qu'ils ne sont pas du monde, comme moi je ne suis pas du monde.

( Jean 17:14 )

And he does not accept what this world has to offer.

Le diable le transporta encore sur une montagne très élevée, lui montra tous les royaumes du monde et leur gloire, et lui dit: Je te donnerai toutes ces choses, si tu te prosternes et m'adores. Jésus lui dit: Retire-toi, Satan! Car il est écrit: Tu adoreras le Seigneur, ton Dieu, et tu le serviras lui seul.

( Matthieu 4:8-10 )

When we feel useless, abandoned, empty, not of this world, we can drink the water that Jesus offers us. It would give us the knowledge we need, so that we never feel thirsty again. He also is the right path that leads to the real treasure humans have been seeking all their life for.

Jésus lui dit: Je suis le chemin, la vérité, et la vie. Nul ne vient au Père que par moi.

( Jean 14:6 )

It is natural for all of us to have a need to feel special, to feel loved just the way we are. Everybody knows that we are created by God’s image. But we easily forget how special we are in God’s eyes.

Parce que tu as du prix à mes yeux, Parce que tu es honoré et que je t'aime, Je donne des hommes à ta place, Et des peuples pour ta vie.

( Isaïe 43:4 )

We may still feel an urge to do something useful in our lives and get rid of that feeling of uselessness. For that we need to understand that the most important thing for us is to be found… Our heavenly father will leave everybody else just to find you, the lost sheep…

Et, s'il la trouve, je vous le dis en vérité, elle lui cause plus de joie que les quatre-vingt-dix-neuf qui ne se sont pas égarées.

( Matthieu 18:13 )

Let’s look deeper inside and see where the disturbing feeling of uselessness is coming from and where it is leading us to. If the feeling wants us to seek for human acceptance or praise, then think twice before letting that feeling take over you. But if what you are feeling is driven by the love to God or your love to others who you can help in their time of need, then go for it! For God is with you, and he has a plan for you.

Car je connais les projets que j'ai formés sur vous, dit l'Eternel, projets de paix et non de malheur, afin de vous donner un avenir et de l'espérance.

( Jérémie 29:11 )

If you are still unsure what is the plan that God has for you, just pray… And then look around. Maybe you are already on the right path?

Je vous laisse la paix, je vous donne ma paix. Je ne vous donne pas comme le monde donne. Que votre coeur ne se trouble point, et ne s'alarme point.

( Jean 14:27 )